A male dom would do it quite happily without being paid. I don’t really think girls would be willing to pay for a man to do it! I just don’t think there’s a need for it. There are male doms, as we call them, but you tend to find not so much professionally. Are there male dominatrix, like Christian Grey?
In the real world of BDSM this is a huge no no!! It takes it to another level. If I remember rightly there was a time where she even used the safe word which he took upon himself to ignore. It’s not proper BDSM, it’s psychological abuse. The book certainly paints and sugarcoats that in a sexy fun light, which is obviously not a good thing and could potentially be dangerous. He knew this and used it to his advantage. Anna is a vulnerable girl and is fascinated by him. The book shows complete manipulation on Christian’s part to gain control and to get what he wants. In our lifestyle we believe in safety and consent and follow SSC which stands for safe, sane and consensual. I read the first book, and I’m going to see the film this weekend.
What do you think of the 50 Shades of Grey book/phenomenon? You’ve got to understand the submissive mind to become a mistress.
It’s not about picking up a whip and beating somebody, there’s a huge psychological side to it. Some people don’t feel comfortable telling their partners about what’s really going on inside their head, or they feel embarrassed about it, or that their wife will be freaked out, so they obviously can’t have visible marks when they go home.īut it’s not all about pain. If somebody doesn’t want a mark, you have to know when to stop. Although if I’m doing spanking or corporal punishment when I’m using canes or paddles I like the lights on because then you can see the marks coming up on the flesh. It’s dark in the dungeon, but I like to think it’s a cosy atmosphere.